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'Bikini Bodies' and Why I hate them.


Put on a bikini, and you have a bikini body. It should be as simple as that, with no crazy diets, gym memberships and overpriced protein shakes... but right now it isn't
It's getting to that time of year again, where 'Summer Bodies' become a thing and suddenly magazines have started to bombard us with articles on how to achieve the perfect 'bikini body' in time for Summer. Oh god.

Personally, I've never been quite comfortable in my body. I literally remember when I was 11, and that very first time I looked in the mirror and thought: 'Ugh I look so fat.' At 11. It seems shocking to think that an 11 year old me had started to hate my body even at that point and since then I can't say much has changed. There's a page in my bullet journal which I didn't show you in last week's post called '2017 Goals,' mainly because it's quite personal and high up on that list is 'FINALLY FEEL CONFIDENT IN MY BODY.' Despite all my efforts though, I'm way off from achieving this. 

I can't seem to help it. Even when I go out with friends, I guarantee there's at least one moment where I look at them, and then down at myself... and compare. It's frustrating, it's sad, and it's demotivating; and something I really should stop doing to myself - we all should. but it's so much easier said than done. 

As I was looking through Google at related searches to 'bikini bodies' these were the actual ones that came up: 'can I wear a bikini if I don't have a flat stomach' 'what size should you be to wear a bikini' and 'how to look good in a bikini if you're not skinny.' I feel like this above all, snapped me back into reality and the anger I feel towards the whole 'Bikini Body' term reminded me of how much I'm giving into society by comparing my body like this. Some people don't book Summer holidays ect. just because of this reason, they're terrified of being seen in a bikini or judged for it that they even avoid the things that make them happy...and that it not okay! I may hate my stomach or the way my legs aren't toned and skinny like some of my friends, but there are also things I love about myself and that others feel insecure about instead. I eat healthily, I go to the gym 4x a week and I should be proud of that, regardless of how my friends look without going to the gym at all. People are built in different ways, and that doesn't mean you're any less healthy of beautiful for your natural body shape. But the whole 'bikini body' trend goes against this completely and even if you try not to, subconsciously we're all taking in the 'you're not good enough' message that brands and magazines and making money from.

One thing Grace Victory said in a Youtube video which I thought was just perfect was: 'Your arms are to hug people, your legs are to help you run, and jump, and dance.' 'Society has made you feel like all this isn't beautiful, but society needs to change, not you.'

I'm going on a massive Summer Holiday in the coming months... and if there's one thing I'm determined to do, it's to put on a damn bikini and feel AMAZING.

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  1. The term "bikini body" really drives me mad too, like you say, if you put a bikini on your body, you have a bikini body! It makes me so upset to think of young girls aged only 11 feeling bad about themselves! I'm sure that your confidence is only going to grow, you're a gorgeous girl!

    Abbey 🌵💫 www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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    1. I know it's terrible! Thanks so much Abbey I hope so x

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  2. This post is so relatable. I totally agree with everything you say!I hate the expression. If you were a bikini, then you have a bikini body. It is so annoying that society makes you feel like you have to be super fit to show your skin! xx corinne

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    1. Ikr, some kind of expectation for how you have to look if you decide to wear a bikini xx

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  3. I totally agree with you. We spend so much time putting ourselves down because of the image society make us believe in. When you grow up watching images of in your mind perfect woman and seeing that you don't actually look like them it's no wonder that so many little girls have a wrong perspective of beauty. I definitely think that society need to change, and fast. xx

    Antonia || Sweet Passions

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    1. Agree with everything you said! 'Society needs to change, not you.' <3

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  4. I hate the idea of bikini bodies! I feel like we have all been conditioned to believe that only one type of body can/should wear a bikini and that is wrong! Every body is beautiful and we should never hesitate to show it of! This is such an important and well written post!
    Robyn // http://www.midnightandlace.co.uk/

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    1. Everyone is different and there's no correct body type to wear a bikini! Thanks Robyn xx

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  5. Amazing post! I totally agree with you everyone should be confident in themselves and with thier bodies and an image should not define what a bikini body should look like!

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  6. Its so easy to get caught up in how you should look on the beach but really as long as you are comfortable that is all that matters. Enjoying yourself is far more important than looking good on the beach anyway! Xx

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    1. Totally agree! No one should be stressing about how they look on a beach xx

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  7. I was reading this and just shouting 'Yas Go Girl!!' , I couldn't agree with you more!! I hate how people think that they have to have a certain body to wear a bikini and it's so disheartening to see as everyone would look fabulous in a bikini no matter what!
    I definitely want to feel more comfortable and confident in my body and I hope I can achieve it soon and I hope you do too!
    Kate Xx
    http://www.luxekate.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thanks so much Kate, I hope so too!! x

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  8. The quote you included is so cute and true! I know it can be annoying when some people have the 'perfect' body without putting in any effort at all but everyone has a perfect bikini body - they just need to gain the confidence to realise this and you will soon hopefully! <3
    - www.roisinslatest.com

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    1. Thanks, what Grace said in that YT video really stuck for me ya know? xx

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  9. I was reading this and I can COMPLETELY AGREE with you!! If you have a bikini and you have a body, you should be able to have a bikini body! I can totally relate to the whole compare yourself to friends thing because I've done that too many times to count! I loved it!

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    1. I'm still trying my hardest to work on the comparing myself thing ahh <3

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  10. I'm so happy that someone's written a post about this! I hate the term 'summer body' too, it's honestly disgusting. Like you need to be a certain way to enjoy summer, it's bull! I, like you, am not the biggest fan of my body but I try my hardest to work on it all year round. People need to love their bodies as they are, instead of trying to fit themselves into a 'perfect' mold.

    caityloux.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Ikr there's no such thing as a 'Summer Body!!' x

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  11. Totally agree with you! I love reading posts about body confidence x

    http://howlindycsit.co.uk

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  12. I used to get so caught up in having a bikini body until I just decided to say 'fuck it' and since then I've already felt a lot more confident in myself and how I look...including how I look in a bikini, plus I don't feel guilty over how much I eat anymore.
    Alicia x
    Aesthetic Obsessed

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    1. YAS that is my ultimate goal really! To stop giving a shit xx

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  13. You go, girl! This actually made me think of this viral tweet from a while ago: https://twitter.com/rachelPLZdotcom/status/861938221843963904 :D

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  14. I agree, society does need to change.

    Similarly to you, I'm heading for a two month vacation in Greece. Greece- the land of summer, sun and fun! I'm going to be spending A LOT of time on beaches.

    Admittedly, I'm not fat- but I've got fat to lose.

    I think we need more posts like yours to change people's perspectives!

    P.s, I just found your blog and this is the first post that I've read, but I can tell that it's a warm, inviting and comfortable space to be in; You should be proud of what you've created here.

    Steph
    www.socialspying.com

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    1. Your comment is so lovely, and I hope other people find it warm and inviting too! Thanks Steph xx

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  15. This is so inspiring Morgan! First off you're beautiful and gorgeous just the way you are and I'm very sad to hear that at your age you're having these feelings (although come to think of it mine started around then too!), and you're totally right it's society that's the issue not us and that quote by Grace says it all!

    But I love how mature you're sounding and you've totally got the right idea, you're happy and healthy and that's all that matters! Yes these thoughts may creep in now and again, but they do for everyone (betting a lot that your friends are probably doing the same comparisons!) and as long as they don't keep us from doing what we want or enjoying ourselves, then they don't win! So you go on that fab summer holiday and you wear that bikini and be proud and enjoy yourself!

    Wonderful and inspiring post lovely, I think a lot of teenage girls should read!

    JosieVictoriaa // Fashion, Travel & Lifestyle

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    1. It's crazy how young we start to feel like this right?! Thanks so much Josie this comment means so much <3

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  16. I agree with everything you've said! Like you say, everybody is built differently, not everybody can be 'stick thin' and reach the expectations of what society has made a 'bikini body' look like... I think, no matter what size you are, as soon as you put a bikini on, you have a 'bikini body'. We shouldn't feel insecure because of these magazines and social media, we should just embrace our bodies, no matter what size we are. xx

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  17. This was a very mature post, both touching and motivating. I understand how you feel, I eat healthily and try and exercise but the fact is I'm curvy and have a tum. I wore a bikini, high waisted at that, for the first time last year and it was amazing as I just say f*ck it to bikinis. We shouldn't create an idealised bikini body, it only damages our personal confidence but installing the belief that we'll never be good enough. Lydia Eve | www.lydia-eve.blogspot.co.uk x

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    1. Same, I'm naturally never going to be stick thin and that's okay! xx

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  18. I completely agree that if you have a bikini on you then you have a bikini body - no matter if you are slim, curvy, short, tall, it shouldn't matter! Amazing post and one that a lot of people need to read x
    Claire | clairesyear

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  19. Recently I've been very negative about my body and rather quite self conscious despite not having been so ever before but this post has made me feel a lot better,thank you Morgan :) x

    https://daisyypetals.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Your welcome and I hope you feel confident again soon x

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  20. All I care about is being healthy, and that totally means different sizes for everyone! x

    xx Sera | STARDUSTBOHEMIAN.COM

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  21. LOVE THIS!! So amazing and spot on. I absolutely love grace victory she's such an incredible role model xx
    Liv
    livslack.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Ikr, i binge watch her videos whenever I'm feeling down x

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Thank you, all your lovely comments make me smile!