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Why I keep my Blog a Secret.


Hey, lovelies! Today I wanted to do a lot more of a chilled out post and just talk
... or ramble
You decide.
about something that's been on my mind this week and I just kinda share all my thoughts on the subject here. This intro literally makes me sound like I'm gonna start rambling about Donald Trump or something haha, but nope! I wanted to talk to you about why I keep my blog a secret to the people I know. 

So, not many people in real life actually know about my blog. Like hardly any, and that's entirely down to me. I legit work like a secret agent trying to stop people I know from stumbling across it, but the other day someone I know found it (and although they didn't 'spread the word' or anything) it kind of made me rethink why I keep my blog a secret in the first place. I've read all different opinions from other bloggers, some are entirely open about it and have links all over their personal social media - props to you guys! - and some people, like me, keep it hidden. I feel like everyone has their different reasons for doing so, so I thought I'd tell you a bit about mine.


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When I first started, literally the only people I told were my parents and a couple of my closest friends and since then I've always treated it like some sort of terrifying secret. If you follow me on instagram, you might have noticed my user name is not 'Just Morgs' and I don't have any links to it in my bio and nope, I'm not missing a trick there, this is deliberate because all the people in my class ect. follow me on there. And that's because, as ashamed as I am to say it, I'm afraid of the judgement. I know I shouldn't be, I mean I'm proud of my blog and how far I've come, I put so much time and effort into it every single day, but they'll always be a part of me that worries about this no matter how hard I try. The idea of someone in my year reading through my posts and laughing with their friends absolutely makes my stomach turn! Being teased about something is never fun, but even worse for me is the idea of people (even my friends) secretly judging me for it. Who knows, maybe everyone's already found it? Maybe everyone's already had their little giggle and moved on? I really should stop caring what other people think, but it's so much easier said than done.



Another reason for why I don't tell many people about my blog, is that I feel like I might change the way I write if I knew that they would be reading it. I always want to be as 'me' as possible on here and I'm scared that it would compromise that and I would feel too shy to be my normal nerdy, plant loving-self aha!
 I always told myself that once I got more experienced in blogging and felt 'successful' if you like I would be open about it with everyone... but let's be real. I was never going to become an 'overnight zoella' and so I realised success is a lot harder to define and it was basically a get-outta-jail-free card for me and I knew it. 

I want people to know I do more with my time than just play guitar in the back of my room and do homework. I want people to realise how much effort I've put into my blog and all that multi-tasking that goes on top of school work. I want to tell people about this wonderful lil' community and all you crazy-amazing people who want to read my rambles

... but I just feel like I can't. 

The reason I keep my blog a secret is because I feel vulnerable. Here I am, typing to hundreds of you and putting myself out there, but at the same time it still feels like such a personal thing to me. 
This blog is my happy place and I'm scared of anyone ever changing that. 


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61 comments

  1. I love this post, I feel the exact same! So far only my boyfriend and my parents know about it and for the time being I'm happy with that, because the thought of being judged for what I write terrifies me too!

    XO
    Ashley
    https://ashlexyz.wordpress.com/

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    1. Glad you liked it! Feels good to just ramble a bit aha x

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  2. Great post hun come say hi on mine beautyfruity17@wordpress.com

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  3. aw i love this so much. Sometimes i feel like that too where I don't want certain people reading my blog posts or creeping on me I don't know why aha. I feel more comfortable sharing my blog with my friends and twitter. x

    possiblysami.com

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    1. Thanks lovely! Yep on twitter my blog is linked everywhere haha, I think it's because I'm surrounded by so many other bloggers in the community there I don't feel as nervous <3

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  4. Every person is different and at the end it's up to you to keep it secret or not but I think other people's opinion shouldn't be that important if you like what you do and you're proud of it.


    Jeff. | NAMELESSJEFF

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    1. Definitely agree, hopefully I'll build up to this soon x

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  5. You are definitley not alone! I'm exactly the same. I think I'm worried that people I know would judge me whereas there is no judgement from all you lovely bloggers!
    Robyn // http://www.midnightandlace.co.uk/

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    1. Aw I love that about the blogging community too! Without it I don't know what I'd do! x

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  6. I completely understand! you want to live your life without people knowing all about you and who you are. I thought about that after i published my blog and thought hmm, I don't really know if i want people being like oh Hetty, that's your blog and you do this and that, but oh well. I guess it's whatever you prefer and you're doing so well x

    www.hettyashasiabee.com

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    1. Thank you so much! I just get so nervous about the idea of people doing that too :( xx

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  7. I did that exact same when I first started my blog and honestly I don't care for people's opinions now.. For every one person in real life who judges you, there's like 10 lovely blogging gals online who'll welcome you with open arms :)
    Terri X
    www.c0yoteugly.blogspot.com

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    1. I hope I'll get to the same stage as you, then, one day Terri! Aw that's so sweet ty <3

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  8. I love this post and feel the exact same way, it's like opening up another part of me to people that I'm just not ready to do yet, great post.
    Hollie xx
    holliethorpe.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. That's such a perfect way to put it. xx

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  9. This post is so honest; and I feel the same. I'm always telling myself "oh I'll tell someone soon" but nope, not yet. Great post and maybe we'll get there one day?

    Eloise xx
    http://www.isthateloise.co.uk/

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    1. *fingers-crossed* hehe
      Thank you Eloise xx

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  10. Chums this is one of my fave posts that you've ever written! Like I could just relate so much and I was so hooked when I was reading this in the car and couldn't help but just smile because I just loved reading it and just being like 'me too' in response to the things you'd written.
    -Livs Xxx

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    1. CHUMMAYYYY! Lysm and you always leave the sweetest comments, seriously don't know what I'd do without you.

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  12. You have literally put my thoughts into words! Your post is so relatable! I only started telling people about my blog when I started to write my personal statement for university!
    Lovely post,
    Freya Xx
    Www.miss-perceived.blogspot.co.uk

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  13. I loved this post! After three years only a few of my friends know about my blog and I don't really talk about it with them. I guess I like having this little place on the internet which is mine and I can just be me xx
    http://www.dellalovesnutella.co.uk/

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    1. Totally love this way of putting it, it's such a personal space for me where I feel never out of place and I never want that to change <3

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  14. I dont know why I feel embarrassed people knowing outside of the blogging community! I always think people may find it a strange hobby hehe oh well! xXx


    www.jessicabkennedy.co.uk

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    1. Yeah sometimes I feel like people just don't... get blogging. It takes a whole lotta explaining and confused faces aha!

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  15. Aw Morgan! This was such a lovely written post. I totally understand how you must feel about the judgement and that's what held me back from making a blog whilst I was still in education. But I can assure you, once you leave you'll never worry about the judgement or what others think of you ever again. Your doing such a fab job on your blog and I hope one day you can show it off without any fear :) you deserve the recognition xx

    Lauren | itslaurenvictoria.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thank you so much for your lovely comment Lauren! I really hope so, you inspire me so much, honestly x

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  16. I am pretty open with my blog I want it to be a part of me!

    heavenlychaoss.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Good for you! I just hope one day I'll build up to doing that too

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  17. I understand and relate to this post so much. I have kept my blog a secret so far and haven't told anyone at all! That's because like you I'd also feel judged and also because I haven't had it long and am still working out what I want to do with my blog.

    Hannah | alongsidehannah.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. That's exactly how I felt at first! Now I feel like I know what I'm doing more it made me reconsider telling people...
      but here I still am aha xx

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  18. My blog has never been a secret, but I was extremely scared about exposing myself. By kind of forcing me to do it, I ended up gaining more and more confident. Now I don't care if someone I know reads my blog (it may be awkward but nothing else). In fact, some have told me that they feel the same about certain things I have talked on my blog. Others might tell you that blogging is not as important as I think it is, but it's just ignorance about this world. Honestly, the more you expose yourself, the less you'll care about other's opinion. Having said that, do whatever you feel you should do bcasue you are the one who has the real power.

    Zoel Hernández | zoelhernandez.com

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    1. Omg, I didn't realize I had written as much haha sorry, hopefully it was useful haha x

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    2. Noooo thank you so much for ya long comment! This is really helpful, thank you lovely <3

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  19. Loved this post, when i first started blogging I hid it from everyone but as times gone on i've told people. It's scary at first but it's such an amazing feeling to share it with people

    Soph xoxo

    www.planetwhispers.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thank you! I think that's what I may start doing, just slowly bit by bit introduce it to people x

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  20. I loved this post, Morgs! My blog was originally under an anonymous name. I thought it was the coolest thing- to have a secret place... As I got older, I changed the name to my real name. Then I linked my blog to my personal instagram... and then this year, I wound up sharing my blog with my English teacher. Honestly, I'm glad I shared it... Now, the whole school knows I blog... and it's kinda cool. Lovely post! x

    https://guiliannamarie.blogspot.com

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  21. I can completely relate to this blog post! I am the same in the fact that I have only told a few people I actually know about my blog such as my husband, my mum and like 3 close friends. I think I'm just embarrassed that people will make fun of what I've written or think it's stupid! Hopefully one day I'll be able to get over this and not worry about it too much, but we'll see.

    Keep up the good work :)

    Melissa x

    www.memoriesandmishapsblog.wordpress.com

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    1. I'm so glad! Think we're pretty much in the same boat aha :)

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  22. Morgan! This was such a lovely, sweet post to read. I can completely understand where you're coming from, even though I no longer feel the same about other people in my personal life finding my blog. Eventually, one day, you will gain confidence, and you will be able to tell people about this little online space you have created for yourself.

    It's undoubtedly one of the scariest things. Opening up about personal things is always scary. You really do deserve the recognition though, my love.

    I am so proud of you, and I am astounded by how far you have come at such a young age. We have both come incredibly far, considering we're only teens!

    Love you so much angel xx

    Jade | www.simplyjadey.co.uk

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    1. Thank you so much for this lovely comment Jade! I knowwww, whoop whoop! You too, inspire me every day gal xx

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  23. Love this post! I've been blogging for almost two years and the only person who knows about my blog is my boyfriend as he see's me blogging or I might not have told him either. I blog secretly for the same reasons you have said, I don't want to change how I write because I know people close are reading. I think it's probably more common than we think. =^-^=

    Sam | Momentarily Dreaming

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  24. Girl, I can relate to you 100%. I am in high school and did the exact same thing for a long time! I loved writing and this was my passion and after blogging for a bit brands wanted to work with me and it began to grow. I was then asked to appear on a national TV show and many people discovered my blog. That public exposure is what led me to finally sharing my work and promoting what I do because it is a TALENT. Not everyone can write well or have the creativity to blog. I thought about my friends who play sports and always get recognized by peers, so why couldn't I do the same? After a while I found it silly that I was not sharing about being invited to fashion week and doing what I love that makes me happy. I know it isn't easy, but I am so grateful that I was kind of "exposed" because it was just what I needed. Now I am proud to share my links and post about my work! xx
    Omnivogues

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    1. I'm so overwhelmed by the response to this post! So many people can relate and I'm so happy. You're 100% right <3

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  25. I totally get it. There are certain people in my life that I don't want knowing about my blog either. I used to have a link to my blog on my Instagram and then shortly after removed it. x

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    1. I'm way to nervous to put it on my instagram just yet too! x

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  26. I feel the same. But I still hope to make friends from the world, not those that knows me personally(I'm having anxiety of them going to judge me if they ever found out my blog). Sometimes I do wonder if I have any readers. My family and boyfriend don't even know about it, and I blog to document my life and share my interest but sometimes I wish someone would respond a bit by giving some positive encouragement so that I know what I'm doing is worth it. Hmmm

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    1. I have made so many blogging friends from this too, and I'm so proud of them and I desperately want to share it with everyone but...
      confidence is blehh right now as you can tell haha!

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  27. This is so scary... you have literally taken all of my thoughts and feelings about my own blog and put them into a post. This is soso relatable and honest and it was just so beautiful to read. Thank you for sharing this with us, you're a true lil' star! x
    https://ciaraslittleblog.wordpress.com/

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    1. Thank you SO much Ciara! Will definitely not be afraid to write posts like this in the future because of the amazing response I've had to it ty babe xx

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  28. I can understand why you don't want to share your blog with the people you know. To me, blogging is personal and when I blogged it was from this vulnerable part of myself that I didn't want to share with EVERYONE I knew. Sometimes it is easier to share with people you will probably never meet than the people you have to see everyday.
    - Sarah ☽

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    1. Exactly how I'd put it! It's so nice knowing how accepting people are in the blogging world x

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  29. I completely understand where you're coming from. I created my blog when I was 13, and some of my posts are very embarrassing because I didn't write as well as you do. People were very mean to me about having a blog because this one person found out and she told everyone,but this was when I was in seventh grade. It's a fine decision to keep it secret for now. You are very successful so far with your blog, and it will always go up from here. I am sixteen now, and I stopped caring about what people I personally know say, and I am also around a lot more accepting people. So, my advice for you is that stick to what you're doing, if one day you want to share it with more people. Do it. If not, you don't need too. Honestly, I have two twitter accounts to keep my blogging and my school life separately, and that's what works for me. I also don't like my blog in my instagram, as of now. If you decide to ever share it with more people, I hope they are very accepting. Blogging is nothing to be ashamed of :)

    xx
    Christina Madeleine// thisfashiongirl.com

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    1. Thank you so much for this amazing comment! I will 100% be coming back to this and I agree with everything you said Christina <3 <3

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  30. This is such an interesting thing for me, because I was the same as you, except I didn't tell anyone about it- not even my mum and dad or friends! It was a passion I had, but I wasn't big on sharing it. Then one day, my school found out, then my classmates found out, then my family, and now it's read by my entire town and they all tell me how much they enjoy it. It's so strange, how the things we worry about being judged negatively for, often end up being the things we should be most proud of!

    This post was really thought-provoking, and you should be super proud of this blog, it's a beautiful, positive space <3

    So much love,

    Anne

    www.aportraitofyouth.co.uk

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    1. Aww thank you that really put a smile on my face! I definitely want to write more posts like this because the response has been amazing xx

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