It's a mixture of everything for me, school stress, friend troubles and even insecurities of mine that wouldn't usually bother me day-to-day will feel 100x worse. It's those days where your best friends can't seem to cheer you up, your favourite hobby (even blogging!) isn't fun and you lack motivation to do anything other than hide under the duvet, sniffling, all day. It's also a day when your self-esteem just...plummets. I'm the kind of person that over-analyses everything, from a look someone gives me in the street to if I sense one of my friends are slightly 'off' with me. This is getting hella deep now, but I've always had a fear at the back of my mind that I'm too boring for people, average and unapproachable, and on grey days it really makes me panic about how I should act or what I'm saying even if it's just a casual conversation to one of my best friends. It's silly and pointless worrying about but feeling like this from time to time is pretty inevitable, and I know other people go through the same thing. So here's another post in my positivity series: '7 Ways to survive those Grey Days.'
1. Just Breathe.
Take lots deep breaths and clear your mind even if it's just for a second. Your not going to feel like this forever, it's just a temporary state of mind and the sooner you can break out of it the better. Most of these negative thoughts floating around your head won't even be bothering you by tomorrow. Just remember it will pass, after all, even the most horrible day is only made up of 24 hours.
If you're panicking about something happening later in the day, then try and find ways to distract yourself. Have a bath, watch a movie, read a book (or even better, read a blog!) but just do whatever possible to take your mind off those worries for a few hours. What harm can it do? Lots of these things are just out of your control and it's no use panicking; a quote one of my best friends told me: 'If it's not going to matter in 5 years, don't spend more than 5 minutes upset about it.'
3. Take a Break from Social Media
It's Grey Days like this that absolutely drain you, and that's before you check your phone. After that, your screen will most likely be flooded with gorgeous pictures and people posting snaps of their amazing, enviable day and it will only make your feel worse. Trust me. By switching off you'll also be able to catch a few extra zzz's which is always good for your mood.
4. Crank up the Rock Tunes
Music always helps me when I'm at my lowest, and so if you're like me sometimes the best thing to do is shut your bedroom door, throw on your headphones and take to spotify for your favourite bands. What a teenager. A few of my favourites are Halsey, Melanie Martinez or rock bands like The Hot Melts. These aren't exactly your typical upbeat pop tunes but that's why I like them and they really speak to me on days like this.
5. Look after yourself
Treat yourself gently and don't get cross with yourself if you forget something that day or do something wrong. Instead, treat yourself for the little things you accomplish that day rather than pushing yourself to complete every single task. It's a grey day for you, so don't set your expectations too high because you'll only end up feeling worse.
6. Don't shut people out.
This one is really important, but ask for help if you need it. I tend to shut everyone out and avoid surfacing from my bedroom at all sometimes but I think you and I both know that's not the way to go. It's hard to explain how you're feeling on a grey day without simply bursting into tears like I do, but talking to family and friends about it can make you feel 100x better just for getting it out there. If I don't feel I can talk to my family about it, I will talk online to my blogging friends or as cheesy as it sounds, write it down.
7. Accept you can't control it
Accept that you can't control everything, and you may not be able to turn the day around. None of these tips I've written are for preventing days like this, because truly, I don't think it's possible. You can only learn how to survive days like this and make them easier to get through. There's no escaping a 'Grey Day' and so sometimes the best thing to do is just accept it and realise that it's a day, 24 miserable hours, and it's over. YOU ARE GOING TO BE OKAY.
I really do hope this post helped you or it's something you'll come back to on a bad day. I tried my hardest to give you real, personal tips that even I use but let me know if you have any in the comments below. Also, what music do you tend to listen to on these sorts of days - hey, maybe you're a fan of Melanie Martinez too hehe! I'll speak to you next week lovelies and you can find all my other '7 Ways' posts here. Just remember you can always drop me an email or message if you ever want to talk to someone, since I know sometimes it's easier to talk to someone online rather than family and friends. I'm always here x
QOTD: WHEN'S THE LAST TIME YOU HAD A 'GREY DAY?'